How to make more time magically appear in your life?

How to make more time magically appear in your life? Well of course you can’t. We only have a set amount of it each day going by the clock. You can however, as I have learned, use it way more efficiently. Lately I have been forcing myself out of my nice warm comfortable bed, into the dark, coldness of winter is almost here, early mornings….All in the name of time creation….Even the birds are still sleeping…When my alarm goes off, my body says to me… ” don’t you dare move, I’m cosy and staying right here”…And yes I would bloody love to! But, I’ve made a commitment to myself to keep moving and motivated, and need to if I am going to transform myself… I’ve realised I need to find this extra time to work before I have to go to my day job. So here I am, It’s now  5am, I’m busy writing and it’s freezing cold, (even though I live in the sub-tropics!) it’s still dark and my family are all happily snoozing in their warm beds. Am I insane?…

Like a lot of people in this life, work takes up so much time, sometimes 12 hours or more, commuting, working, and driving home again. Then there’s other work that needs done around the house, dinner, cleaning up. Ra De Ra…I’ve been spending most of my time after work, writing, reading, pianoing….. But yesterday when I looked outside I saw that the grass and garden has started to turn into a jungle! Badly neglected. I need to strrrrretchhhhh time even more….

I guess what I have realised is, things won’t change unless change is actually created. If you don’t care for change, don’t do anything different…. if you want to be a lazy ass…be one….if you don’t….don’t…Make time to work on yourself and whatever it is you want to get into. Actually get into it and stop practising….that will only lead you to become good at practising! Let’s just say learn on the run!   Get up earlier….Go to bed later…Whatever works for you….
Early morning is an awesome part of the day and I find it more productive time than nightime at the end of the daily grind….

Breathe deep for better health and sleep……zzzzz…..

So, I had another amazing yoga class last night. I really focused on aligning my breathing with each movement as it is incredibly good for my powers of concentration and I also find that I don’t get taken away by my thoughts. If you have trouble sleeping, I’d highly recommend taking a class. …

One of the many benefits of practising yoga is that it teaches you to breathe properly….There are so many people out there that don’t know how to! Yes, of course everyone knows how to breathe…. It’s an automatic function we perform without having to think about it…. But over time we lose our natural breathing ability that we were born with and we end up with a shallow breathing habit which only goes as far as the chest region….The kind of breathing I’m talking about is the one that allows oxygen to go right down into your diaphragm….I once assumed that was how everyone breathed, or could if they wanted to….Until I was discussing this with a lady I once lived with. She only ever breathed into her chest, and as much as I tried to coach her, she couldn’t breathe into her belly…. It left me puzzled…. She was amazed that people could even do that?!…For me it’s as easy as blinking but I couldn’t for the life of me show her how to do it herself. It’s a shame because she had a little stress going on and I know that if she could have done some deep relaxation breathing, it would have really helped her….

So with my best explanation abilities, I will attempt to convey one way of doing it….

  1.  Get comfortable in any position and put your hands on your chest and stomach.
  2.  Focus on your breath until you feel your stomach rise and fall, a bit like inflating and deflating a balloon in your belly.
  3. Breathe in through your nose, hold the breath for a few seconds and then exhale through your mouth. The time it takes to exhale should be about twice what it is to inhale….One effective breathing pattern is to breathe in for a count of 4, hold the breathe in for a count of 7, and breathe out slowly for a count of 8.
  4. Do it slowly and stay as relaxed as possible…Do 4-8 breath cycles 1-3 times every day. Especially before going to sleep…

After doing this a while, you may find that you feel calmer and you will sleep soundly….Most of us are sleep deprived due to the chaotic nature of life, so this exercise will really help….It’s such a simple and extremely healthy thing to do, and far better than taking a sleeping pill….Enjoy!….ZZZZZ


Nestled high in the hills amongst the native bush sits a temple. Each week I visit this temple. As soon as I step out of the car, I feel a sense of peace come over me…..Ahhhh…..Yoga….. Tradie by day, yogi by night…. I love it…. It’s so much more than just stretching….Yoga is a discipline that you can carry with you throughout your day, to bring about peace, clarity and presence to all that life throws at you. As for the stretching side of things, I really do love the way it irons out my crinkly body after all the physical exertion I put it through in my day job.

Tired, jaded and sometimes unmotivated, I drag myself off to the classes…..And….like a spring chicken I bounce back out rejuvenated and fresh. It really is quite a transformative experience….

It is another tool I use to help me through the relentless chaos of life. For those couple of hours, I’m free from the bondage of my day to day thought stream, the bombardment of the pretty much useless information my mind seems to delight in sharing with me. I feel kinda spaced out all the way home….throughout dinner…. cleaning up….whatever else I do for the rest of the evening… and….I’m still feeling chill as I fall into bed and into the soundest of sleeps….Bliss….

Never taken a yoga class?….Try it!……

I think yoga is great for increasing my brains stamina or something….Maybe it’s just the slowing down of the thought stream that makes me feel more capable?…My piano learning is definitely helping too and, I need all the brainpower I can achieve in order to succeed in my goal to break free from being a Tradie and to become a decent writer….So, if you’re feeling unmotivated and jaded, or you’re in a hole….. bust out your yoga mat and start stretching….or play music…or draw…or whatever….Just do something!…..It will help you to become unstuck.


Which key am I in?

As part of my quest for thrival, and on top of transitioning from a roofer to a writer, I have decided that I should give my brain a real workout and learn how to play the piano. Working fulltime in my job…. spending hours writing, writing, writing…. and my piano lessons have left time pretty tight. But I need to keep it up or else I’ll end up back at square one, hating my job, trying to think my way out of there and not doing anything solid about it…

I love music and I love banging away on the keys, but have never really learned to play before now so I’ve taken it upon myself to get some professional lessons.

Yesterday I had one of those lessons and I was quickly reminded how much more practise is required before I can possibly call myself a player of the piano! Nerves got in my way….my teacher is the real deal so playing in front of her was slightly intimidating…I can’t even read music. I just learn things by ear and then pretend I’m following the sheet music. But she called my bluff….’Oh Aaron you’ve learned to play it by heart… well done!’ I am trying to read but it’s a whole different language to learn….It’s hard enough to co-ordinate my fumbling fingers let alone look at sheet music at the same time! Something to work on…..

I’m finding it a great way to break up the writing that I’m doing. It’s fun and good for my concentration skills….The neighbours may not be finding it fun hearing me plonking away on our out of tune piano, but I’m sure their dogs are enjoying it as they always bark along! Or is it howling because their ears hurt? Well I’m having a howling good time learning so they’ll just have to deal with it…

I have a goal to reach with my playing and that is to become proficient enough to join a group and do some performing. I’m also thinking of recording my progress just like I’m doing with here blogging my writing journey…

New Beginnings.

So eager am I to be starting out on this new journey, I haven’t even finished building my website yet. Mostly because I am very much an amateur when it comes to web design and I am hoping to rope my computer whiz son into helping me with it next time I see him…


It’s been a long time coming for me to actually take action and start to build myself a life that I want. Many years of wanting to change, coupled with as many years of complaining that it was impossible to change, and feeling like I was a victim of life because I believed I had to work in a job I hated… Many years of that mindset…. Until one day I realised that I had about zero chance of doing anything different if I didn’t actually start to do anything different.

I thought I could think myself out of the hole I was in and into a new, more fruitful place that would align with my values. Instead though, I just thought myself into a big hole of depression and became very stuck and couldn’t get out of it. I continued to think, why can’t I change? I’m so miserable. I don’t like it. I’m a good person, why am I being punished with this inability to change my life? And around and around I went in circles.

One may think up a great idea, but without any action it remains nothing more than a thought.

I have finally decided to do something about my over thinking. I like words so I have set a goal to become a writer. My first job as a writer is to write  blogs about what I am doing to shift from mere survival to thrival. I wasn’t sure, but yes thrival is actually a word, I looked it up…..

thrival. n.—Gloss: doing well in a place, at an occupation, or at an undertaking; the act of thriving.

So, this is it. I’ve started!…